Bah humbug – spouse visa stuff

Mum didn’t hear anything yesterday morning, so she called me in hysterics about it.  She was going off her head at Australia and how we are arseholes essentially, and what I don’t have the heart to tell her when she is on a rant, because she is upset, is that it is not Australia, it is a bunch of people, processing paperwork who don’t give a shit.  They don’t have any connection to my mother or the situation and they don’t care about each person – if they did I am sure they would never get anything done.  I am sure they deal with more than just one case a day and I would hazard a guess that over the years they have seen everything and therefore they are desensitized to people’s concerns.

I am not saying it is right or justified or even fair, but I just think taking it out on Australia is not really where the blame needs to be laid.  Get onto the human rights commission and take them to court for negligence or whatever, lay the blame where it is deserved.  I know if I said this mum would probably argue the poin that she has written to the prime minister and haven’t heard a response so again Australia sucks, but to be fair – the prime minister also has a job to do – and she probably never saw any letters – you have to wonder at the type of mail politicians get every day – people who screen again probably don’t really give a rats arse about one person asking for help or being angry or whatever.

Anyway my point to all of this, is that the department of immigration are just being dicks.  They keep promising mum an answer – so far they keep moving the date and it drives me mad that they can’t just keep to their promises or at least let her know the day before that it is going to be delayed etc.  My mum was completely out of her mind yesterday and I am pretty certain she must have the best employer in the world to let her take so many days off because of all this.

I worry that she is going to lose her job and her husband and her mind before this is all done and I am not the type to let that lie.  I have over the last few weeks considered writing a scathing letter to the department about this, but I kind of want to wait until a decision has at least been made before i do that.  That way if it a negative decision my scathing letter can be even more scathing….if he is approved, I might make it a disappointed letter but not quite scathing….

One of mum’s commenters on her blog said they should do a campaign in letters – and while in theory – that sounds great – mum’s hubby doesn’t have the cleanest history and I would hate for that to be the straw that broke their back on this.  I don’t mean clean as in illegal etc, but he was removed from the country because of idiocy and they may just back themselves up again if we push them to the edge.

Mum did write a post about how we shouldn’t be scared of our country and we should be able to stand up – but in the end – i disagree with her on that.  I would rather shut up, behave and not rock the boat if it means I am not screwing my partners chances of being here with me.  They have the power in this situation – and we need to wait on them.  Being a control freak like my mum, I know how hard this must be for her, I know what it is like not being able to have the answers immediately.

Anyway, fingers crossed we hear something today……fingers crossed every day.. 😦

So it continues

Still having problems of the female variety.  I just can’t afford to take any more sick days given I only have 10 more working days left….Once I am out of here I will see a gyno and get some further advice, however I know what their response will be….I need to lose weight….so December is going to be the start of that, I am hoping that once I get my treadmil and am doing at least 1.5 hours a day on it, I should lose weight…hubby and I are going to go into vegetarian mode again – just have vegies and salads as food.  Cut out meat, bread, potatoes and possibly do a detox as well to get off the sugar and coffee and other things that need to be expelled.

Combined with the increase in exercise I am hoping to lose at least 10kgs in december…well that’s my goal…It’s probably too high a goal, but you have to aim for the top to achieve anything I reckon.

I just want to bleeding to stop.

On the upside the wound on my back has finally healed I think, it has been over 3 weeks and no blood or opening and this morning I couldn’t even feel where the wound actually is.  So it looks like it may have actually healed up.  This is a great thing!!!  Means something is finally going right.

Onto other news, my mum has been promised a decision on the spouse visa on Tuesday morning (our time) so if all goes well the new family could be out here by the weekend, which is awesome for her.  Fingers crossed we actually do get an answer but I have little faith in them actually doing what they say.  So I am not holding my breath and will wait until mum actually calls me and tells me what the decision is.  It could still be a negative, but mum isn’t considering that as an option.

visa update and general stuff

Went and saw my mum on Friday night, was the usual discussion about the visa we are waiting to hear anything about.  I am quite surprised she actually took some advice I gave her and started a blog to help deal with the stress?  Not sure…but I think it is good she is using some medium to get stuff out of her head….

She called the immigration department in South Africa and the lady rang back advising she was going home sick.  The lady then called back the next day and advised – she should be making a decision in about 2 weeks.  This is good news if nothing else any decision is better than no contact what so ever – mum might actually be able to start making plans….fingers are tightly crossed anyway 😀

Had a very dull weekend to be honest, hubby was on call and he spent most of the time on the phone to an international company (on hold) trying to get some issues resolved…so I couldn’t make all that much noise so I was mainly sitting on Deviantart and WoW.  I did a fair bit of cleaning in between his phone calls and we watched a fair bit of Buffy since he couldn’t leave the house.

It also bucketed down rain all weekend, so much rain, that I walked from the side door to the car – maybe 2 metres and it looked like I had jumped into the shower fully clothed…so I ended up not going anywhere either 😀

I am feeling really depressed about being at work…this place is making me feel horrid…I am sending out my resume to agencies this week, fingers crossed I can find something – ANYTHING that pays roughly the same money.  I can resign anytime from now which is good, but I would like to find a job before the Xmas/new year hush that always occurs..I don’t want to be without work for very long, it would be perfect if I could find a job that doesn’t want me to start until Jan…HAHHA  yeah dream that would be 😀

Anyway I suppose I should do some work….