Xmas Update :)

I have forgotten to update simply because it is so busy 🙂  hence the daily truth things, I thought it would perhaps keep people learning more about me, however since a couple decided not to post and previous mentioned, I figured I may as well tae this time to do a quick update 🙂

The Mother-in-Law came down on Christmas Eve Day, so I had to get up early, get all the Xmas day shopping done and then drive for 1.2 hours to get M-I-L from train station.  Essentially a wasted day 🙂

Xmas Day, we went to the local botanical gardens for the day to just get out of the house and do something different, we had a late addition of a tribe of nigerian people come as well. IN truth, they are only 5 Nigerians, but with the racket the kids make – I swear it feels like 30 🙂

We had a lovely day, the kids played soccer and the adults caught up.  Here is a youtube clip of my siblings having some dancing and singing. I apologise in advance for the quality I took this one on my iPhone and I have yet to grab the stuff off my proper camera 🙂

Hubby and my mum both ended up with some heat issues – dehydration perhaps…sun stroke…no idea…but Xmas in Melbourne can be a little scorchy.

We came home at about 5pm, and then had one of our friends come round at about 6pm to just chill out and have some drinks with us.

Then Boxing Day every year we head round to a friends place for a BBQ, however we went to bendigo in the morning to get some wedding photos printed out for the M-I-L and then we had a look around and a few bits and pieces.  BBQ was really good we got there at about 2.3pm and we got home at about 7pm, we all then decided to sit on the couch and do absolutely nothing!!  We were all pretty wrecked!

The next day we spent driving for 3 hours to drop the m-i-l off at the train station, which was 40 minutes late, and then we had some more friends over for dinner.

Yesterday, hubby went to work and was not feeling well so came home after about 3 hours…he is feeling better now though which is great.

Just typing that post has made me feel exhausted again to be honest!  We still have to find a chance to get over to see my Dad and S-mum for Xmas etc, but in all honesty, we have New years in a couple of days – which we have to start getting organised for, and I just need to get some sleep in!

I hope everyone I know has had a lovely Christmas and all that good stuff.

A good friend recently started doing video diaries instead of blogging, who would be interested in hearing me waffle or do you prefer to read it?  I am contemplating starting to test it out as well, and I have done a few videos here and there…let me know what you think 🙂

I am also trying to get my camera out again, I lost a lot of confidence in myself recently and although I have decided I don’t want to do portraits – I do enjoy taking landscape and animal shots…so I am going to continue with that and perhaps create a section/website dedicated to that so that people can purchase prints maybe?  Still working on the idea as I don’t want to spend money on something that I have no real intention of pursuing as a huge part of my life, but I would like to share images with people so if they want to hang them in their houses/shops/hotels etc they are able to.

Uni – is still a work in progress – I am still deciding what I am going to do- as yet I am undecided and I have to make some phone calls tomorrow about it all.

 

Negative Self talk

So, it has been 2 months since I got a handle on my anger…I have to push people to tell me if they have noticed a difference, however they are saying there is, so I guess that is a good thing.  Not sure why I was expecting people to just offer me support and congratulations on getting it under control…thinking about it – it probably isn’t something you would say to friends??  *shrugs* No idea…just feels a little like no one has noticed the effort I am making for myself and for others in my life.

The above paragraph is essentially the focus of my next issue – negative self talk….Hubby asked me why I always say negative things about myself and I know why I do it, but he was not impressed when I tried to explain it, so i just got upset and cried.

I would say 85% of the stuff that comes out of my mouth is immediately shot down as being incorrect, stupid, and just plain dull.  My opinions on an issue – are still my opinions…whether you agree with me or not – but there is no need to shoot me down because you experienced something different or see it differently.

If i don’t know about a topic – I shut my mouth – ask me about politics or football and I will stare at you blankly like you just came from an alien space shuttle….I have no idea…If I have any experience with/about/from something I will try and contribute to the discussions.

Yes I have been known to be very cynical, and I do try and make fun of everything, I also like to make people laugh and see a different side of things.  I don’t engage in conversations about the exact same topic weekly – sorry I have nothing to add after the first 8 times we discussed it….politics, education, drivers, the stolen children, etc etc….I really don’t care what Julia Gillard did or didn’t do – you’re pretty lucky I even know who she is…and talking about her every time we see each other doesn’t really give me anything to talk to you about.

So from what I have been thinking about since the conversation with my husband is this:

  1. I have too many friends who consider themselves intellectuals, however are only able to converse about 3 topics repeatedly.
  2. I don’t have enough friends who actually want to just talk shit and joke around and laugh about life, fats and sex…
  3. I need to find more friends with interests that more closely align with me so I can share with them.
  4. I need something in my life that I can do (hubby has multiple things he does outside of our relationship – I have nothing).

I also somehow need to deal with the fact that anything I say is considered crap or not important…I need to remind myself of all the positive things I have done and said that have helped not only myself, but others.

This will be my next challenge to have faith in my abilities, knowledge and depth.

 

Someone get me in the time machine – i lost my weekend??

WOW!  It just disappears so quickly!!

I had a huge weekend and I am sooo tired now…I feel like I need a holiday 🙂

So my mum was going to drag the entire brood up to my place for a lunch/afternoon thing and I was pretty excited to be hosting..however I didn’t get to make anything overly exciting as I knew the kids were having issues adjusting to the aussie food.  IN the end a BBQ with some salads was the most non offensive food I could figure 🙂

We learnt some things, the kids liked my coleslaw; also avocado’s and cucumbers.  So mum has a few more things she can serve them without too much fear of being shot down!

The short version of them finally eating though – my mother waited over 4 hours for the hire car she was supposed to pick up at 9.00am.

We had a plan they would get to our place by about 11am, then would stay until about 4sih; i figured anyway – I had advised mum that hubby had organised a dinner thing for us and we had gotten our wires cross as sometimes happens – however I knew mum didn’t like driving at night especially in a forgein car so I figured the timing would be fine….of course nothing does go to plan…they didn’t get to our place until nearly 2.45pm…ouch…so we stuffed them full of food and then booted them out at 5.30!!  LOL

I do feel slightly guilty about that, but under the circumstances it was all I could do.

The kids are terrified of my animals, they eventually managed a pat or two…that will certainly have to be corrected if I am ever going to babysit them for my parents…HAHHAHAAH  maybe!!  Don’t get your hopes up mum!

Anyway, the family left, hubby and I stuffed everything into a bag ad then left the house as well – probably before my parents had reached the freeway 😀  We then had an absolutely awesome evening and at about 9.30 I just crashed and had to be taken home to go to bed!

One of our friends, currently living in Warnambool, came round at about 10.00 and crashed at our place so she didn’t have to drive home again.  It was so nice to catch up with her as we just don’t see her enough.

Then Sunday morning we had a massive breakfast with our friend and it was 1pm before she left and before we even noticed that it was that time.  We spend so much tme chatting that it just gets later and later 😀

of course once she pottered off home, I had to do some housework…YUCK!!!  I am seriously thinking about the maid idea 😀 I really am!!  I am also seriously considering buying a dishwasher as well after the dishes on Saturday 😀

All in all I am bushed but in a very nice way, spent lovely weekend with both family and friends – what else can you ask for?

For my mum and the kids who won’t/don’t/can’t/shan’t eat anything :D

Here is an inspirational blog re food that I thought my mother could get some creative ideas from 🙂

http://burgershereandthere.com/

She is creating burgers from each country – they are not burgers as we think of them though 🙂  might be some method to help get the kids to enjoy a more aussie palette.

 

**edited**

made he link a hyperlink for someone who complained :p hehehhehe

devastated :(

My new bed was supposed to be delivered today, but i got a phone call saying it has been delayed until Monday now ….I am soo devastated…I have spent the last 3 weeks so looking forward to having an actual good nights sleep and it has been torn away from me for more time…CRY  heehhe

Anyway, at least I am getting a new bed I suppose 🙂  Happiness at that thought.

Work has been good, travelling along and nothing overly exciting happening, in all honesty it is just dad doing all the work and so I think in some ways he is less stressed about it, as he is not worried about all the rework and broken stuff.  Anyway step mum is back on board, completely recovered and I am trying to get her to understand the usefulness of putting everything on computers, I may be slowly winning that battle but won’t really know until a couple of months have passed and I can show her all the awesome reports the system can run to show her how the company is actually doing.

I have barely spoken to my mum since the family came out, just that few times that first couple of days, and then pretty much radio silence.  I am not worried about it, but I am just trying to give her a chance to settle into a new life.  The kids and John also have to get used to so many things I did not want to be always over there etc.  They have all started school and well, will be on holidays now, but I didn’t want to be in the way.  I will try and catch up with them in the next couple of weeks, but we have just been so busy lately I have barely been able to stop and catch up myself.  Mum sounds so much happier and although I am sure there are other worries on her mind like money and job hunting with/for John etc, I am pretty sure that is better than worrying about them being killed.

So, I am not entirely sure where our days go, but, well I have this chest infection, so it has knocked me around for 2 weeks, and hubby was on call the other week, we have friends over on Tuesday night, hubby has gaelic on most wednesday’s (i come home and study), he was also attending one of the local scout halls as a leader on Thursday nights, (which I also use as study nights) and the weekends we have been going out together and just window shopping or going for lunch places etc and ejoying each others company really.  It has been a great time for us to just re-connect.

Hubby is sick now, I think I gave him my chest infection – or some variation, so he is unhappy with me at the moment..hehehe  OOPS!!! Hopefully he won’t be quite as sick as me though – he tends to have a very quick time of colds/flus etc; good immune system in action.

I picked up a passport application the other day, and I have to go and get some photos taken so I can have someone sign them for me.  I am thinking of either taking hubby to hawaii or japan now.  Knowing how much hubby loves Japan, it would be awesome I think, but given their recent turmoil, not sure if it is safe and financially viable etc.  The airfares are certainly cheaper to Japan at the moment, but that doesn’t mean hotels and normal costs will be lower.  I am going to have to do my homework over the next couple of days.  We have to make a flying trip to Wodonga in the next few weeks as well, to get some paperwork signed and certified for hubby’s mother, so we can get his british passport – it is, after all what I married him for…just the passport…LOL  then once we have all that sorted out I can actually start saving and looking into everything.

The credit card will be paid off in the next month and after that savings will commence for a trip of some description, then it will just be a matter of trying to get time off work for both of us for early next year….since I have no idea where I will be working at that point, it may be difficult to organise everything straight away, but I will see where we are at job wise when I start thinking of booking the flights etc.

Enough rabbiting on from me, going to do some study now…maybe….lol

Shopping, cars and stuff ups.

I trundle off to get the car checked out for thisEPA thing, and guess what…they are cancelling them due to the rain….grrrr…I took today off to do this and some other things because it needs to be done before we leave for Sydney, however with the forecast – we may not be able to.  I wonder if we can get an extension on the time given we are interstate for one week? hrmmm….

I took Oyinda (my littlest) sister to highpoint to get a teddy bear, she was freezing but in the end I think she was very happy with her teddy.  She also bought it a little ski outfit to keep him warm.  his name is TJ and comes with a birth certificate as well.  All in all a very good place.  I was so tempted to buy myself a dragon, but in the end decided to just make it out Oyinda.  I will just buy one for me next time we are in Doncaster or something 🙂 hehehe

Now I am heading off to the supermarket to try and get everything for dinner tonight, whilst also trying to organise a firewood delivery…..I want to get the fire started when i get back so I can have the house toasty warm for tonight.  Not that I have ever built a fire before, that is usually hubbies domain…he was a scout after all!!

Chat to you all later 🙂